Weekly Photo Challenge: Forward

Weekly Photo Challenge: Forward

We found this beautiful variegated dieffenbachia in the woods and brought it home. We planted it under the guanábana tree where it has thrived.

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A month or more ago, my husband found another and brought it home. Now it is the dry season and windy. The second plant looked a bit beat up but still had some good leaves. We planted it near the first one, watered it regularly, and waited for it to recover.

 

As you can see, it did not go well. All the leaves turned brown and died, including the newest leaf which was just emerging. We kept watering it but thought it was probably a lost cause.

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Until recently, when we spotted this new leaf emerging!

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There is hope! This one says it is going FORWARD in spite of the rough journey it’s had, and we can look FORWARD to new leaves, new growth, and new beauty in our yard.

The little black bee is a surprise bonus.

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Culture Shock, and the Unhappy Expat

We were told of the possible difficulties in adjusting to a different country and culture. We have encountered unhappy expats. I have been curious about other people’s experiences, finding neither adjustment problems or causes of unhappiness myself.

My husband shared an interesting blog post HERE and I had one of those ah ha moments. This writer has traveled a lot and lived in other countries, and was surprised to find herself suffering from culture shock. Many of the symptoms reminded me of unhappy expats we’ve met so I decided to do some research on the subject.

What is culture shock? It is the discomfort of finding yourself in a different environment where you can no longer rely on the usual social cues, language, customs, and ways of doing things.

What are the symptoms? 

  • Loneliness, sadness, longing for family and familiar environment
  • Obsession with cleanliness (what is new and strange is “dirty”)
  • Preoccupation with health, aches and pains, allergies, skin problems
  • Irritability, frustration, anxiety, confusion, insecurity, inability to concentrate
  • Delay or refusal to learn the language
  • Developing negative feelings and stereotypes about the people and culture of the new country
  • Withdrawal, avoiding the local people,  spending excessive time alone or with fellow expats, excessive dependence on fellow expats
  • Feeling overlooked, exploited, or abused, or fear of being cheated, robbed or injured
  • Irritation over minor frustrations out of proportion to the causes

What do you do about culture shock?

  • Learn as much as you can about your new country
  • Learn the language so you can communicate. Even a few phrases can be very helpful.
  • Get to know the people in your new country. Get involved with activities. Learn their behavior and customs
  • Take care of yourself – good diet, exercise, relaxation, adequate sleep, alcohol in moderation
  • Maintain contact with friends and family. Connect with other expats in your new country and use resources that are available
  • Keep a journal
  • Be patient with yourself, and understand these feelings are normal. Give yourself time to adjust.

What are the stages of culture shock?

  • Honeymoon phase (first few weeks) – everything is new, wonderful, fascinating
  • Difficulties (3-12 months) – adjustment problems arise, problems with being understood, understanding how things are done, different social cues, unfamiliar locations. People withdraw, or surround themselves with other foreigners. Irritations become impossible situations.
  • Adjustment (12+ months) – the person gains understanding of the new culture, gains an increased sense of belonging, and life starts to feel more normal.

Whew! I feel like I’ve been writing a term paper. This is the condensed version of a number of articles I found on the subject.

There are expats who have been here for many years but they still unhappy, unable to speak the language, and spend the majority of their time with other expats. We went to an expat gathering when we first arrived and another expat warned me about the Panamanian people who can’t be trusted, and about boredom that will lead to excessive drinking, and about lack of safety of people and property in this country. I have seen a surprisingly large amount of bickering and complaining on internet forums.  I’ve encountered expats in stores who either refuse to acknowledge a greeting, or see it as an invitation to complain about something. I know culture shock can’t account for all of these unhappy people, but maybe it is a factor?

For me personally, my biggest experience with culture shock was moving from New York City to Fayetteville, Arkansas. I was used to the 24/7 activity, noise, lights, multicultural population, and availability of everything you can imagine. I went to Arkansas and couldn’t sleep. It was dark and quiet at night – very creepy. People talked differently and couldn’t understand me either. Everyone was white. There was no Jewish deli or bagels.  The Klu Klux Klan was not just something in a history book. We were asked – what are you yankees doing down here? I felt like I had been dropped into another world. I think the worst part of it was the surprise. I had given no thought to this part of the country being so different. Yes, in time, I adjusted. I was a new nurse and had my first job. I was pregnant and had my first child. There were happy times but those first few months were a bit rough.

Here, it has actually gone much better. We visited, we read, we talked to people, we did all the research we could. I had already learned some Spanish, and then I seriously studied Spanish with an on line teacher  for months. My teacher is a native so she is also able to teach me a lot about the culture and people. My husband also studied every night with his books. This transition has been far easier than others I’ve had made within the US, and I think the preparation is a big part of it, and looking forward to the differences.

The blog post my husband shared with me had some good advice. “Whenever you’re frustrated about something, rather than judge people, think about and ask yourself why they might do things that way” We couldn’t figure out why people drive towards the center of the road, which looks very disconcerting when they are coming towards you. Then we realized that there are so many pedestrians and bicycles on the road, and the vehicles are only trying to share the road safely. It’s better to stay toward the center and move over when you need to.

So, these are my thoughts on this subject for the moment. Some of the Zemanta links highlight another related idea. Returning to your home country can bring a whole new set of similar challenges as you readjust to the culture there! I’m traveling to the US soon and it will be very interesting to see how that feels after all these months here.

These are some articles I read for information – Worldwide Classroom, San Diego State University, Government of Canada, University of Toronto, Wikipedia

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Sunset in Panama

It was a beautiful evening, so I thought I’d share a few photos.

 

 

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Our Cost of Living in Panama

Many people are looking for information on this subject, especially people who are considering a move to this area. Money was a big factor in our move and  of course it is a concern for many others as well, especially with all the economic problems in the US.

We are in the city of David, Chiriqui Province, Republic of Panama. This is only our experience, our information. Other people do things differently, live in other areas, and make other choices so their costs will be different. Keep in mind that many professional Panamanians in our area (eg; teachers, nurses) make $500-600 a month, and many others live on much less than this. If you live like a Panamanian you can have a good life here on less money than in the US.

This is our house. I’m guessing it’s about 1000 square feet, 3 bedrooms, 2 bathrooms, living room, dining room, kitchen, the carport you see here, a laundry room behind it, and a good size patio behind that.

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Looking up our street. Looking up our street.

This is our street, a nice quiet middle/upper class neighborhood with mostly professionals – teachers, lawyers, business people, tradesmen, etc. It is on the nicer side of town, 5 minutes from the Pan American Highway and an excellent shopping area. This neighborhood is considered desirable and very expensive by many of the locals.

Our rent is $385/month which includes water and trash pickup. The house was rented unfurnished (which means no appliances).
Electricity last month was $49.45 for 421 kWh which I think is about what we can expect monthly. We do not have air conditioning.
Cable – TV and mid range internet (about 5MB, not the fastest, but not the slowest, and it has worked out just fine) $53.52 / month
Gas for the kitchen – we buy it by the tank. It’s about $65 to buy a tank (you will probably want to have two) and $5.12 to refill it. A tank lasts us about a month. We cook almost everything from scratch and don’t eat out, and have an on demand water heater so we use a fair amount of gas.

Food – last month we spent $339.31 for two adults. This month we have spent $319 and there is a week to go in the month. But, this includes $30 of fish and about $30 of chicken, much of which is still in the freezer, and maybe $50 in bulk items from PriceMart.  So far this month (about 3 weeks) we have spent $68.35 at the produce markets. This includes ALL our fruits and vegetables, and also some eggs, and corn for tortillas  (I have only used a can opener once in the 4 months I have lived here). We have fresh fruit at every meal, and fresh veggies every day.

Food is a big variable. You can get almost everything you are used to in the US, but you will pay US prices and maybe more. You can get produce in the supermarket but you will pay a lot more, and it won’t be the wonderful quality of the markets. If you eat out, prices also vary widely. A Panamanian lunch at the corner hang out is maybe $3 – $4.50. If you go to a restaurant, it could be $6, or $10, or $20+ depending on where you go. Fast food is available but you will pay US prices and more. If you eat like a Panamanian you can keep your costs down a lot, and eat better and healthier food.

Cars – used cars are surprisingly expensive here. Major brands of new cars are readily available.  We paid $5300 for a Hyundai Atos from another expat who was returning to the US. When I first got here I paid $4000 for a 97 Mazda 323. My friend’s mechanic sold me his wife’s car because he said he couldn’t find any other decent cars in my price range ($3-5K). Other people here have told me similar stories about expensive used cars. But, the insurance on the Mazda is about $95/year, and on the Atos (full coverage) about $550 for the year.  Since I’ve been here, gas has ranged from $3.85 – $4.10 a gallon for 91 (which is the lower octane rating here).

If you want to save money, use public transportation. There is an excellent bus system that goes everywhere. A ride is maybe $.25 – $1.00 depending on where you go. Even an all day ride to Panama City is $18. Taxi’s are everywhere and inexpensive, maybe $1 – $3 in town. They charge more for more passengers, or extra packages and baggage, as well as for distance. Bicycles and walking are other very common forms of getting around. we have found biking easier here because drivers are used to sharing the roads with bikes and pedestrians, so they are very considerate.

Alcohol – Local beer is $.48/can (and really good!), less by the case at Pricemart – $.40/can. Rum (2 liters – decent local brand) $10.89 at Pricemart, maybe a couple dollars more in the supermarket. Seco (2 liters – local rum type product) $8.69 at Pricemart, again a bit more at the supermarket. You can get decent box wine, $2/box/liter, and good bottled wine for less than $5/bottle. There is a decent wine selection in the supermarket, and a very nice wine store in the nearby shopping center with a good selection and personal service to help you choose.

Entertainment – we spent $7 for two at the movie theater, evening showing. Another day it was only $5 for both of us. We didn’t buy snacks though, so not sure what they cost.
We found a tennis group, $25 each to join, $5 monthly dues. Tennis balls however are $8/can.  If I understand correctly, golf is also available at the same location for $30/month.
We bought bicycles, $265 each for good bikes, 21 gears, shocks in the front. (I don’t know how this compares to the US).

Health Care – a visit to the doctor will cost $20 – $40 basic charge. A visit is as much time as you need.  A visit to the dentist is maybe $30 for a cleaning or filling, more for other procedures. I am getting a crown for $250. I have found health care here much more affordable and the quality excellent. I was a nurse in the US, and I am very happy and thankful to be here. There are various options for health insurance but this is not a subject I’m qualified to talk about. We have decided to pay as we go.

>Also, keep in mind that that jubilado or pensionado discounts lower costs of many things even further, for those who qualify. More info HERE

Moving expenses – this is a one time expense, but people are understandably curious so I will give you my $.02 worth. This expense can also vary greatly. If you want to save money, move as little as possible. Come down here with whatever you can bring in suitcases. It’s cheaper to buy what you need here than move it. Do not bring a car. From what I understand it’s complicated and expensive, and older cars cost more than newer cars to import. If you want to move stuff that involves shipping, expect to pay thousands. If you want to move the entire household of stuff, you can rent a container so with enough money it is possible.

Getting settled – another one time expense. For us, I saw this unfurnished house that I really wanted, so I had to do some major shopping for appliances, beds, dishes, everything! But, this is not as difficult as it sounds. There is a large variety of options. You can get a little $100 stove, or a $900 stove with all the bells and whistles. I think decent mid range appliances are comparable to what they cost in the US, and you will see many familiar brands. I lived in Florida before, land of wealthy people where you can furnish your house with great second hand stuff. Here in Panama though, there is little used furniture and it’s expensive. New furniture is available all over town but it costs probably as much as new furniture in the US, though that is hard for me to say since I never bought new furniture. Or, it’s also possible to rent a furnished place. Some have everything down to the spoons and towels.

Whew! I think I have covered all the basics. Thanks for hanging in there to the end. If you see incorrect information, have suggestions, questions, or anything else please leave me a comment!

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Weekly Photo Challenge: Kiss

Weekly Photo Challenge: Kiss

I didn’t know what I was going to do for this one until we were eating breakfast outdoors, watching the hummingbirds, and this pair gave us the perfect photo op. Usually the hummingbirds are busy chattering at each other and chasing each other away from the feeder. It was unusual to see a pair like this. They spent quite a bit of time on the fence together, and then they flew around the feeder together in a show of happiness. Finally they settled down to get a bit to eat. Thank you hummingbirds  for giving me just what I needed for this week’s photo challenge, and than you Joel for taking the great photos of the pair on the fence.

 

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Looking out the Window

Our office area looks out to the side yard, so we’ve been putting the fruit scraps out there. Today we moved things around so I’m sitting next to the window. What fun! This is what I saw just today. The papaya peels seem to be the most popular with everyone.

 

 

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My interview is posted

My interview on the Expats Blog website is posted HERE

badge-featured-expat-150  I get a cool new graphic too 🙂

They have also invited me to write articles for their local expert section. I’ve only been here a few months and don’t feel like an expert. But, I’m thinking about it.

If you want to explore the site, the main page is HERE.  I think there are more and more people interested in expat living, or considering a move, or who have actually moved, so there is more need for sites like this one. It’s helps people get more information and connect with others who are doing the same thing, and hopefully make good decisions about such a major life change.

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Canasta Basica food store

We are putting together information for other expats who may come to the area. My two biggest challenges when I first arrived were finding things, and understanding Spanish.  We thought it might be useful to identify various businesses that have someone who speaks English, and also share directions on how to get to these businesses.

Today we went to Canasta Basica, a small local food store. It is supported by the government so it is able to keep prices lower. They have a selection of chicken, pork, beef, some produce, canned goods, condiments, rice, vegetable oil, dried beans, milk, juice, and other items. We bought chicken breasts and legs (drumsticks + thighs) for $1.30/pound, and 30 eggs for $2.50.

This is Oliver (in the red shirt) who speaks English. (The other guy is my husband, partner, and fellow blogger) Oliver always has a big friendly smile, and is usually found behind the meat counter. It’s a real pleasure to see him whenever we shop there. The whole staff is very good, of course, but since Oliver enjoys practicing his English with us he is the one we talk with the most.

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The store is located south of the Pan American Highway, just down the road from Super Barú. Go south on the road that goes down the east side of Super Barú, and you’ll see it on your left in a couple blocks. THIS is a map of how to get to the store. KFC is an easy landmark on the Pan American so we started from there.

This is the front of the store, so this is what you are looking for.

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We will continue adding information about various business, and we also hope to add some video clips of business people so our readers can meet these good people. If any of you have any requests or suggestions for something we could include, please let us know. Write to info@thePanamaAdventure.com  or leave a note in the comments section below.

I have also had a request for a larger font so posts are easier to read, so I’m giving this one a try. Feedback is always welcome on anything you see, or would like to see on our blog!

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Iguanas in the Yard, and other interesting things

Tossing kitchen scraps in the yard can be interesting. We have been tossing them outside of the office window so we can peek at the visitors. The iguanas are usually very shy. We have spotted them but they always take off if they spot us. Today I managed to get some video through the window before he saw me. Apparently they really like papaya peels!

There have actually been two iguanas in the yard today. The bigger one is more skittish.

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The smaller one is darker, and seems a little less likely to run off though he also remains very aware of his surroundings. Here he is with a papaya peel in his mouth.

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This is an owl butterfly enjoying some watermelon peels. Photo by Joel.

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I am very excited about this photo! These cocaleca, or wood rails are so shy and hard to photograph. This is the first decent photo I’ve taken since I’ve been here.

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These are the birds that make the amazing sounds. The first night I heard them I took a video and I still love listening to them. 

And,  a couple other things…

I spotted this interesting tree in town. It had green balls the size of small bowling balls! Does anyone know what it is?

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The other night had a really beautiful sunset.

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This concludes the odds and ends I have on my desk at the moment, but I’m sure there will be more!

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English, or Spanish? Expat Gringos in Panama

Disclaimer – anything I say here or anywhere else on my blog is only my opinion based on my short time of living here, and my personal experiences. I don’t claim to be an authority on anything!

I was in Canasta Basica the other day, a small food store with good prices on basic items. Oliver, an employee, recognized us and saw a chance to practice his English, so we were buying our chicken in English. The woman in front of us turned to him with a glare “por qué no Español?!” I quickly explained (in Spanish) that he wanted to practice his English and she let it go.

Many people in the US complain about foreigners who don’t learn English. People complain that Miami is becoming a Hispanic city where more Spanish than English is spoken. Is it any different when we go to someone else’s country? Of course it’s difficult to learn a foreign language, but effort counts. I see how people open up when I ask them how to say something in Spanish, when I take an interest in learning more, and express appreciation for their help.

I also notice the attitude towards gringos (folks from the north who speak English). Many of us live in expensive houses, band together, make our own communities, sometimes with walls and gates and security. Many of us never learn Spanish. It would be like hundreds of (insert any foreign country’s citizens) came to your neighborhood and built compounds, and wouldn’t learn English. If these newcomers are rich and happily pay inflated prices for everything, which drives up costs until you are priced out of your own neighborhood, you’re not going to feel too kindly about these newcomers.

When we first meet Panamanians, they usually assume we live in a gringo area. When we tell them no, we live here in the city, in an all Panamanian neighborhood, the smile becomes genuine and the attitude relaxes. They realize that we want to become part of their culture, their community, and their way of life. When we try to learn their language, take an interest in their food, their interests, and their culture, it is very appreciated and they welcome you with open arms.

Why do some expats keep to themselves, and others do not? Why are some expats very happy, and others are so unhappy they eventually leave? I think there are a number of factors at work.

Hype – there are for profit organizations that make money off of expats, who will tell you: Come live in paradise for a fraction of the cost! Invest in property and get rich! You can afford your dream life in this other country! Spend big bucks on our seminar so we can sell you property and make money off you, and then leave you living in a foreign land totally unprepared for the experience. Is it any wonder this doesn’t go well?

Lack of homework – similar to the above. You believe the hype. Instead, you need to visit and check things out for yourself,  talk with other expats in your destination country, learn the language, study about the customs and way of life, and rent before making any decisions to buy. Then, you are less likely to be surprised by the reality, and less likely to get yourself stuck in something that doesn’t work for you.

Lack of knowing yourself – as Joel (my husband) always says – “You can’t get what you want until you know what you want”! Do you have to have American TV, or certain food, or medicine, or something else? Is it impossible to deal with barking dogs, or slow mail service, or whatever else isn’t going to work for you? You must choose a place that has what you require, and enough of what you want, or you are going to be frustrated and unhappy a lot.

Flexibility – sometimes I think we can be a bit arrogant. Our ways are the best, and we know more than everyone about everything. The Panamanians have managed to live with their ways for a long time. Maybe it’s different, maybe worse, maybe better, but what right do we have to expect them to adopt our ways? And, if we are open to learning about them, we’ll find the things which enrich and improve our lives.

Hanging out with other gringos – There are wonderful gringo expats! But, don’t limit yourself, or get sucked in to the negativity that abounds in the expat community. We have run into many unhappy, complaining expats (I don’t know why they stay!)  It’s nice to have expat friends but if you don’t make friends with the locals, you are missing out on so much!

Trying to do business – from what I have heard, having a business can be very difficult. There may be different laws, regulations, expectations, customs, and language. A lot of people get very frustrated or have bad experiences, so really do your homework before attempting this.

Last – be a good ambassador. Panamanians get their ideas of the US from television and the expats they meet. We can’t control TV and the media, except to explain that it’s mostly fantasy. But, we can control the image we present.  If someone came to your community from (insert any foreign country) what would make you welcome them, or avoid them?

These people are no different from you and I. They want to be valued, listened to, appreciated. In my opinion, if you come here and don’t integrate into the community, you are really missing out! Your life will be so much richer, so much more interesting, and so much more fun if you get to know the people here.

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